A New Look at Childrearing: Focus on What you Want!

When I worked as an early childhood educator my company stressed the importance of refraining from using the words "stop" "no" "don't" and "do not." At the time I thought it was a ridiculous objective. In having supervised toddlers and preschoolers who were very successful at selective listening, I had come to believe that it was impossible to apply these type of techniques to this age bracket simply because they did not yet understanding and command of language. How could they possibly know what you were referring to? If a toddler was climbing on the furniture, it was so much easier to say "stop climbing on the furniture" rather than "keep your feet on the floor." I thought that you had to identify the behavior and the object and then redirect that behavior. Now I've come to realize that it was my own habits that made it difficult in communicating with the children, not their selective listening skills.

After studying hypnosis I've come to learn that that the ear hears and the mind sees what its attention is drawn to. If I say "do not think of dancing elephants" what does the listener automatically think of? And what if I were to keep saying "don't think of dancing of dancing elephants." Well you get the point. Now imagine for a moment being two years old and constantly hearing messages like "don't run into the street", "don't make a mess" and "stop beating on the cat." Your attention is drawn to the actions that your already doing, so of course you keep doing these things. All of a sudden the adult voices that are telling you to "not" do these things are getting louder and louder and pretty soon your being punished for the very things that mommy or daddy drew your attention to in the first place. How confusing for a two year old! By emphasizing the action we do not want we are literally programming our children to continue that undesired behavior.

Let's do ourselves and our children a favor by cutting all the drama and focusing on what we want. By emphasizing to our children how to be gentle with themselves, and their friends when learning to share. Telling them to keep their feet on the floor when climbing on the furniture, and to stay in the yard and be safe when going near the street. These small but very significant changes in language and direction will not only save us from an array of dramatic child/parent incidences but also help our children create for themselves a clearer view of the world and how to behave in it.

Steps for Healing

1. Set the intention to heal a belief that no longer serves you.

You can tell if a belief needs to be healed if your experiencing emotions that feel constrictive. Or if you have a particular pattern in life that you are interpreting as self defeating such as not being able to stay at jobs, or holding yourself back from doing things you'd like to. Constrictive emotions are fear based and can be expressed through anger, depression, fear, resentment, indecision, stagnation, restlessness.

2. Trust the universe and keep your eyes open!

The universe will send you people, conversations, reading material, songs, anything and everything to help you deal with whatever the issue is. It could take days, hours, months or even years. Length of time depends on how open you are to noticing and utilizing the healing tools around you, and how willing you are to change and embark in unfamiliar territory. Remember to enjoy the journey. We establish so many wonderful relationships and gain so many valuable lessons along the way.

3. Thank the universe for your healing.
How do you know when the healing has taken place? Everyone has their own unique feelings. But generally you feel better, lighter happier and fuller in life. You are no longer stagnate, and you recognize the holiness in yourself, and others within the present moment. Behavior patterns start to change, you have more love in your heart than fear. You put things into perspective and forgive yourself, and others easier. You become even more gentle with yourself. This too is an unfolding process. Thank yourself and the universe for all the opportunities to learn about yourself, forgive yourself and love yourself.

4. Expand and share with others.
Your healing is the greatest gift you have to give to the world. Others will be inspired by your love, gratitude and greatness. Its contagious. Let us spread peace, healing and love throughout the ends of the earth!

Healing with Hypnosis

So today is the third full day of the World Hypnosis Summit and I just have to put out a big THANK YOU to everyone who helped bring this into existence. Some of the top leaders in the hypnosis field put our free Internet teleconference calls sharing their skills and teachings. This is truly an example of sharing abundance, gifts, talents and passion with others. I hope the world can some day replicate this type of freely giving on a global level in my lifetime.

My friends and I have been experiencing much healing. Why is hypnosis so powerful? First off hypnosis is a natural mental state that everyone experiences. Those moments right before drifting off to sleep or right before wakening are hypnosis. Spacing off, day dreaming, and driving to work and not recalling the details the drive are all states of hypnosis. The state one's in while watching TV is even a light level of hypnosis. Daydreaming helps us expand our imaginations to envision that new job, meeting that someone special, going to the moon, and explore the depths of the earth. Everything that has ever been accomplished or created first started out as a thought. We can even practice things like in our minds like dancing, playing an instrument, and preparing for childbirth. Our minds interpret these practice daydreams as experience and soon we believe we can do things we've only ever dreamt about.... if we let ourselves feel the feelings and live the experience of singing on stage, having the perfect wedding or landing the six figure job. So lets go ahead and daydream ourselves a new reality. One with passion and forgiveness. A healed world.